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Crossroads

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I had the pleasure of speaking at the Women and Girls Foundation’s Crossroads Conference for Women yesterday morning. I wanted to share my talk with you here. In service of the Women and Girls Foundation’s (WGF) mission to develop women leaders, and timed to coincide with Women’s History Month in March, the Crossroads Conference focuses on […]

8 Rules for Angsty Saturdays

8 Rules for Angsty Saturdays

Rule #1. When you start to feel a chasm of hopelessness open just below your heart, but above the pit of your stomach, turn off the Internet. Rule #2. Never apologize for eating mac n cheese. Rule #3. Hydrate. Rule #4. Do something. Empty the dishwasher or do laundry or something. Enjoy the tiny blossom […]

Marriage

Marriage

As I contemplate marriage to my beloved RZ, a dozen conflicting desires and considerations vie for my attention. Am I ready for the sacrifice of marriage and, eventually, motherhood? Am I willing to take on the shift in social perception and expectations? Will he accept that I may never remember to turn off the bathroom […]

Improbable Landscape

Improbable Landscape

So I’m sitting here in a coffee shop on the Disneyland-polished end of Pittsburgh’s hippest street, trying to think of clever uses for the phrase “mimetic desire,” powering through a laundry list of super grown-up things such as 1) Get my car inspected and 2) Draw up a lease agreement in which I am on […]

The Power of Place

The Power of Place

I traveled to Smith last weekend, ostensibly for Commencement, but in truth to see some friends who would be there, also using Commencement as an excuse. Despite my tightening budget, it was the best decision I’ve made in a long time. Smith has always held a certain power for me; it was the place I […]