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Crossroads

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I had the pleasure of speaking at the Women and Girls Foundation’s Crossroads Conference for Women yesterday morning. I wanted to share my talk with you here. In service of the Women and Girls Foundation’s (WGF) mission to develop women leaders, and timed to coincide with Women’s History Month in March, the Crossroads Conference focuses on […]

How do you Love?

How do you Love?

How do we love in times of crisis? How do we love in times of chronic discontent? How do we love in times of hatred and polarizing media and the facebook echo-chamber of opinion and fear and speculation? How do we love when we are betrayed? How do we love when we betray? You hear […]

My message to the world:

My message to the world:

LOVE EVERYONE. But know what love is. Know that love is not joy. Love is not sex. Love is not patronizing. Love is not easy. Love is a choice. Maybe sometimes you and the one you love have built something, cared for it, nurtured it, dusted off its smooth hard surfaces, opened its cupboards and […]

Marriage

Marriage

As I contemplate marriage to my beloved RZ, a dozen conflicting desires and considerations vie for my attention. Am I ready for the sacrifice of marriage and, eventually, motherhood? Am I willing to take on the shift in social perception and expectations? Will he accept that I may never remember to turn off the bathroom […]

Improbable Landscape

Improbable Landscape

So I’m sitting here in a coffee shop on the Disneyland-polished end of Pittsburgh’s hippest street, trying to think of clever uses for the phrase “mimetic desire,” powering through a laundry list of super grown-up things such as 1) Get my car inspected and 2) Draw up a lease agreement in which I am on […]